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Cerys Love PsyD strives to bring humanity a bio-psycho-social-spiritual perspective, weaving the latest evidence on how to thrive with the ancient edict that it supports: To love something bigger than ourselves, love ourselves, and then love others. You did wake up this morning. It all begins from that fact! You matter! Standing on this core foundation, let's discover your unique superpowers to live your best life!

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1. Dr.C Mirror Psychotherapy™

(Based on Cerys Love PsyD's The Love Rule, Mirror Psychology books - free-access radio & television series here at ceryslovepsyd.com and ever-entertainment.com)

Q: What is Mirror Psychotherapy™?
A: Mirror Psychotherapy™ is my original approach, grounded in my evidence-based The Love Rule and Mirror Psychology books, founded on the ancient, yet still revolutionary, idea that loving something bigger than ourselves, loving ourselves, then loving others is all we want and need. I tailor sessions to adult clients across Colorado via secure telehealth.

Q: What makes Dr.C’s psychotherapy unique?
A: From a bio-psycho-social-spiritual perspective, I integrate my published works, latest evidence-based research, and creative psychotherapy, blended with experiential therapy exercises, to empower you to discover your unique superpowers to live your best life.

Q: Who can benefit from Mirror Psychotherapy™?
A: Adults in Colorado seeking personal growth, support for mental health challenges, and a creative bio-psycho-social-spiritual therapy approach. If you can accept that you matter simply because you woke up this morning - then let's start from there!

Q: Who can receive psychotherapy from Dr. C?
A: I offer individual teletherapy for adults (18+) who reside in Colorado.

Q: How do I book and pay?
A: Book and pay for all sessions securely online via my booking system. Payment is required at booking to reserve your time.

Q: What is teletherapy and how does it work? 
A: Teletherapy is video-based (like FaceTime or Zoom) therapy using a secure, HIPAA-compliant platform. You’ll receive a link via email once you first book an appointment, which you can use from then on to join your sessions.

Q: What if teletherapy isn’t a fit for me? 
A: If, after intake, we determine teletherapy isn’t the best fit or you need a higher level of care, I’ll provide resources for you to pursue to find the right support.

Q: What technology do I need?
A: A computer, iPad, or smartphone with a camera, microphone, and internet connection. For privacy, sessions should be taken in a quiet, private space.

Q: What if I need to reschedule or cancel?
A: You may reschedule or cancel up to 24 hours before your session via my online booking system. Late cancellations and no-shows are non-refundable.

Q: Is everything confidential?
A: Yes. Your information and sessions are protected under HIPAA and state law, with exceptions for safety and mandatory reporting.

Q: Will I have to do homework or assignments?
A: Yes. Therapy is collaborative. I will suggest between-session activities to help you make progress.

2. Dr.C Mirror Experiential Therapy™

(Based on Cerys Love PsyD's Mirror Experiential Therapy book - free-access radio & television series here at ceryslovepsyd.com and ever-entertainment.com)

Q: What is Mirror Experiential Therapy™?
A: This is my signature blend of Mirror Psychotherapy™ with experiential therapy exercises, incorporating my evidence-based book Mirror Experiential Therapy. Talking isn't always easy and sometimes - not possible. But when you Do and Feel, perhaps we can then Talk about the issues you are facing. And, sometimes, just the Doing and the Feeling move you forward all by themselves! I encourage you to engage in tailored creative and physical activities as in-between-session assignments (like writing, art, music, drama, movement, sports, adventure, travel, horses, nature) to access, process, and express fully your unique bio-psycho-social-spiritual experience.

Q: What kinds of experiential exercises might I try?
A: Assignments are tailored to you personally—options literally include any type of experiential-based Doing that is important to you. Sometimes we start all the way back at eating, exercising, and sleeping properly - and go from there!

Q: Is Mirror Experiential Therapy™ available outside of psychotherapy?
A: While the primary application is woven within therapy sessions, the broader experiential outreach approach is shared through Cerys Love PsyD's outreach media projects available to you online anytime at: ever-entertainment.com and media book series available to you here on ceryslovepsyd.com as well as at ever-entertainment.com.

3. Cerys Love PsyD Mirror Experiential Outreach™

(at ever-entertainment.com)

Q: What is Mirror Experiential Outreach™?
A: This initiative brings Cerys Love PsyD's active creative therapeutic philosophy to a wider audience currently through performing and visual arts, music radio shows, and, hopefully soon, live Biju™ - High^Life events (in development). The mission is to inspire you to discover and celebrate your unique superpowers.

Q: How can I participate or attend events?
A: Visit ever-entertainment.com for updates on radio shows, arts performances, and upcoming live events.

Q: What are Cerys Love PsyD's Biju™ - High^Life live events?
A: (In development first at Ever Live® on ever-entertainment.com and then in Tahoe.) In Old English, our first English, Biju™ meant "I am, I will be." It is the origin of our modern word "BE." Cerys Love PsyD is resurrecting the term - it is so appropo. We are all always works in progress, striving towards being our best selves. Biju™-High^Life™ live events will be substance-free gatherings of like-minded individuals participating in an all-encompassing range of healthy experiential therapy activities together.

4. Cerys Love PsyD’s Books

A. Free Access Radio & Television Book Series
Q: Where can I access free radio or TV presentations of Cerys Love PsyD's books?
A: You can listen to or watch Cerys Love PsyD present her core books—The Love Rule, Mirror Psychology, and Mirror Experiential Therapy—here on her website or at ever-entertainment.com.

B. Books Available for Purchase
Q: What books has Cerys Love PsyD published, and where can I buy them?
A: Cerys Love PsyD's published works include The Love Rule, Mirror Psychology, Mirror Experiential Therapy, Borderline Personality Disorder: A Continuum Paradigm, and Communities Taking Care of Their Own – and Saving US Society Billions. All are available for purchase on Amazon.

Q: Are Cerys Love PsyD's books integrated into Dr.C's psychotherapy and Cerys Love PsyD's outreach?
A: Yes! Cerys Love PsyD's books form the foundation for both Dr.C's psychotherapy, experiential therapy, and Cerys Love PsyD's experiential outreach work.

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ISBN: 9798418709264

Chapter Excerpts:

The Love Rule:

Chapter 1: What If...

"Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets." ~Jesus Christ

(The Holy Bible, King James Version, Matthew 22:37-40).

What if it is true? What if this is it? What if being the best person we can be comes down to this? Whether you believe Jesus Christ is God incarnate, or a prophet, or a wise man, or even just another person like you and me - being a pragmatic minimalist, I decided that this claim that has stood the test of time - that all humans need to flourish is to abide by these two commandments - was worthy of investigation, and worthy of becoming my life's work in an effort to make a difference in the world." ...

"I did realize going in, as with any scientific investigation that follows the evidence wherever it may lead, there was a possibility that this extensive study could convince me this claim was wrong - but it hasn't. While, at least for me, my doctorate unveiled the fact of how much we don't know yet about human beings, my research to date has just emboldened me in forging ahead, with excitement, that this claim just might be true. My research to date has not only shown that this claim might be true for one group of humans - but for all humans, regardless of where we live in the world or what we believe." 

Chapter 2: Universal...

"What could be considered versions of this claim are universal across cultures:

• Common Sense throughout time: “Treat people the way you’d like to be treated.”
• Hinduism: 3200 BC, from the Hitopadesa: “One should always treat others as they themselves wish to be treated.”
• Judaism: 1300 BC, from the Old Testament, Leviticus 19:18: “Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.”
• Zoroastrianism: 600 BC, from the Shastna-shayast 13:29: “Whatever is disagreeable to yourself, do not do unto others.”
• Buddhism: 560 BC from the Udanavarga 5:18: “Hurt not others with that which pains yourself.”
• Confucianism: 557 BC, from the Analects 15:23: “What you do not want done to yourself, do not do to others.”
• Christianity: 30 AD, from the Bible - King James Version, Matthew 22:39, Jesus said: “Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.” And going even further, in John 13:33 Jesus said: “A new commandment I give unto you, that ye love one another as I have loved you.” 
• Islam: 632 AD, from the hadith Kitab al-Kafi, vol. 2, p. 146 - “As you would have people do to you, do to them; and what you dislike to be done to you, don’t do to them.

This merely brings us closer to what I have come to term the social imperative."...

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"If you merely walk across the street, you are trusting that the person driving a car will stop for you to cross. Someone might argue the driver stops because there is a stop sign or a stoplight or they fear another car will hit them or they will get in trouble from law enforcement if they don't. But, ultimately, they stop because it could be them crossing the street, and they would want a car to stop for them. This example is amazingly evident when you visit countries that do not have stop signs or stoplights at road intersections and do not have traffic cops. It is an unspoken agreement without need for a reminder sign.

Do people attempt to be selfish? Of course, and that is what is making this concept of reciprocity ragged around the edges. But, our cooperation as human beings is still working the majority of the time. We would have complete chaos and anarchy if this was not true. Is the selfishness becoming dangerously rampant? Yes it is. We can all see it. Some would make the case that our social fabric is torn asunder. But I wouldn't be writing this book - put through a litmus test of nearly 20 years of study - if I didn't have hope and believe we can do better. 

From a bio-psycho-social-spiritual perspective, becoming a healthy human being not only requires the ability to empathize and cooperate, but also requires the ability to form secure attachments with other human beings. The latest research in neuroscience demonstrates that secure attachments between human beings are essential to health - as well as survival. These secure attachments are at the core of my concept of the social imperative. 

It was John Bowlby, a psychodynamic psychologist, whose own experience required him to part with Freudian psychoanalytic theory. He had been sent away to boarding school, nothing unusual among those who consider themselves to be upper class. He was self-reflective enough to identify the resulting anguishing hollow ache he felt. In some of his seminal research, he found a mirror for that hollow ache in children who had been orphaned by war. 

His experience, his research, and his knowledge as a psychologist led him to develop what he termed Attachment Theory. Instead of Freud's argument of a constant internal tug-of-war causing mental illness, Bowlby argued that the ability to form secure attachments from cradle to grave was required for mental health, and that the absence of this ability to form secure attachments not only causes the mental anguish he experienced - but mental impairment and mental illness. 

He soon paired up with empirical scientist, Mary Ainsworth, whose Strange Situation research proved it. Ainsworth's gold standard research found that not only would a primary caregiver's ability to form a secure attachment with an infant define that individual's ability to form secure attachments for the rest of their life, but that some infants are born unable to form secure attachments at all, regardless of how warm and loving the primary caregiver is. Both genetic (nature) and social (nurture) elements are at play." ....

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"In the busy of our everyday lives we rarely stop to think about the empathy from others towards us that we take for granted as part of the social contract of being human - that we take for granted as we cross the street, expecting drivers to stop for us. We rarely stop to think about the unspoken empathy we provide towards others in this reciprocal agreement of being human. And yet, as we struggle today with division and difference that feels like it has torn us nearly completely through, this reciprocity holds the key to achieving what we all desire - peaceful flourishing - in our relationship to something bigger than ourselves, in our relationship with ourselves, in our love relationships, in our family relationships, in our community relationships, and in our relationship with this world we all share." 

Chapter 3: ...Yet Unique

"While it could be argued that cultures around the world universally make a somewhat similar statement regarding reciprocity, they don't goes as far as stating love and they don't make the claim that, in essence, love is all that human beings need to flourish as Jesus' claim does. In fact, of the reciprocal edicts I have found, only Judaism in 1300 BC in Leviticus 19:18 in the Old Testament, and Jesus quoted in 30 AD in Matthew 22:39 in the New Testament specifically state love. Yes, love requires a whole different level than treat or do. The act of loving, it could be argued, is far beyond treating or doing unto others. And yet, it could also be argued that there is a type of love involved in the mutual respect in all of the reciprocity prescriptions. There is a love of fellow humans contained within these statements across cultures. It could be thought of as the love contained within the cooperation that is necessary to being fully human, the cooperation that is necessary for humans' very survival." ...

Chapter 4: Three Kinds of Love

"When you unpack Jesus' claim, you find three steps that include three types of love:

1) Love something bigger than yourself with all of you,

2) Love yourself,

3) Love your neighbor as you love yourself." ...

...

"Love Yourself

The next step and type of love is: loving yourself. Loving yourself comes before loving your neighbor because loving yourself in Jesus' statement is the mirror for loving your neighbor. Love your neighbor as you love yourself. But loving yourself comes second after loving something bigger than yourself - because loving something bigger than yourself is the mirror for loving yourself. Loving something bigger than yourself with all of you sets the parameters of what loving yourself looks like. You love yourself in relation to, as a reflection of, that experience of being a vital and valued part of something bigger that we all share and you also love yourself reflecting the humility of being just one vital and valued part of a whole. You cannot be grateful for yourself and not love yourself - and in that gratefulness lies your subjective well-being." ...

Chapter 5: Awe

"How can we invoke awe? It would make sense to say that the more moments of awe we experience, the more love for awe we experience.  Typing the word r-e-a-l-i-t-y contains seven moments of my reality. Reality only exists in the current moment. A previous moment has past. A future moment has not yet occurred. Just recognizing this fact allows you the space to experience awe. Awe, after all, is a moment that we experience as expanding our perception of time because we are completely absorbed in the present moment when we encounter it. Near-death or out-of-body accounts provide a good illustration of this, with reports of a sense of much more time passing than the seconds during which the phenomenon actually occurs. Athletes and other performers report experiencing this as well and this being in the zone, as they call it, is sought after because this is where their performance becomes magic, their very best - their peak performance." ...

Chapter 6: Love Self

"How can we invoke humble, healthy self love? Make sure self is on your grateful list to start! Love and fear cannot exist in the same space at the same time - so choose love. Appreciation and fear, or disgust, cannot exist in the same space at the same time - so choose appreciation. If you don't believe me, try it. I only want to put in this pragmatic, minimalist book what every human being can experience for themself. Try calling up love and fear in the same moment. Won't happen! Try being grateful and disgusted in the same moment. Nope! 

Choose to be you. You are the only you. Never forget you are a vital and valued part of a whole - you matter. If you didn't matter, then why would you exist? Your very existence is no small feat. Do not listen to anyone telling you otherwise. Awe exists in the miracle that you wake up breathing every morning. Heck, awe exists in every cell that makes up you period. If you don't do you - who will? No one else can fill your shoes, or take your place. Choose to be positive, choose to be optimistic, discover your grit, discover your resilience.

If you don't feel you know who you are, then set out on the adventure of figuring that out." ...

...

"I agree with Albert Einstein when he said, "We have to do the best we are capable of, this is our sacred human responsibility." ...

Chapter 7: We

"How can we invoke love for our neighbor? More specifically, how can we invoke love for our neighbor that reaches both the level of our all-encompassing love in moments of awe and the resulting mirrored love for our self? Further, how can we invoke love for not just our favorite neighbor, not just our neighbor who is like us, not just our neighbor who it may profit us to love, but as Jesus clarifies for his claim in Matthew 25:40 "these the least of my brethren?" How can we invoke love for those of us who only have love to give us in return? 

It is here where the plot thickens. Not only do we as human beings need to have empathy and cooperate in a reciprocal manner with one another in order to survive; not only is loving and being loved through creating secure attachments with one another the social imperative; but human beings actually construct their reality together through their symbolic interaction." ...

Chapter 8: Nuances

"After taking all of the love steps in Jesus' claim, it is important to recognize the nuances contained within these statements as well. These nuances are vital to fully achieving our goal of peaceful flourishing for humanity. From a pragmatic minimalist perspective, I am going to highlight four nuances: personhood, unconditional love, unconditional positive regard and human equality. These four conditions are built into Jesus' claim, along with the three steps and types of love. In fact, personhood, unconditional love and unconditional positive regard are actually wrapped into human equality." ...

Chapter 9: Human Equality

"Here we come full circle. We are back to addressing how ragged reciprocity has become around the edges today. We are back to Jesus claim' that love can fix it, that love is all we need to become our best selves, that love is all we need to achieve peaceful flourishing for humanity. 

Human equality is fundamental to Jesus' claim. Human equality that contains not only the three steps and types of love, but the dignity of full personhood, unconditional love, and unconditional positive regard. Aiming for anything less than all out human equality would fall short of achieving humanity's fullest potential. Aiming for anything less would violate the conditions, rights, attitudes contained in Jesus' claim. I don't care if this claim is old. I don't care if this claim is not sexy. I don't care if my life's work does not add something new and cutting edge to scholarship. As a pragmatic minimalist, I only care that it works." ...

Chapter 10: The Final rEvolution

"I intend The Love Rule to be our new narrative that will enable us to thrive individually and collectively. Yes, it is actually extremely old - and versions of it are universal - but I see that as strengths. A pragmatic minimalists' dream! What hasn't happened, what is new, is actually translating Jesus' statement into the tapestry of our lives in the here and now - actually evoking a new, detailed narrative for the world as we want it to be, so we can make it so." ...

Mirror Psychology

Chapter 1: The Love Rule

"Mirror Psychology stands on a foundation of The Love Rule (Love, 2022c). In a brief summary, I wrote the book The Love Rule with the intent of it being the (old) new narrative we can tap into, not only for achieving peaceful flourishing on the humanity level, but also as the new narrative, from a pragmatic minimalist's perspective, for quickly and efficiently achieving secure attachments through brief psychotherapy blended with experiential therapy within our relationships with something bigger than ourselves, in relationship with ourselves, and in our love relationships, family relationships and community relationships.

I call it the old-new narrative because it is fundamentally based on Jesus' claim in Matthew 22:37-40 that love is all we need to be the best we can be - as individuals and as human beings - which neuroscience and the latest bio-psycho-social-spiritual research is continually proving to be true. Whether you believe Jesus is God incarnate, a prophet, a wise man, or just another person like you and me, I decided this statement was worthy of nearly 20 years of investigation, ending up with a doctorate in clinical psychology, and my life's work in an attempt to make a difference in the world. While also serving to convince me of how much we still don't know about us as complex human beings, my studies only emboldened me to apply this audacious claim. Jesus' claim is very old - and versions of it are universal - but I believe these facts to be among its strengths.

What is new - and even rEvolutionary - is actually applying it in the microcosm of our daily lives, in our moment-to-moment decisions. The objective is to transform Jesus' claim from an idea into practice. To set about accomplishing that objective in the most pragmatic, minimalist way, this book takes this very old claim and positions it within contemporary psychology, developing a new theoretical construct and providing the latest neuroscience and bio-psycho-social-spiritual evidence as its foundation. Then, Mirror Psychotherapy blended with Mirror Experiential Therapy (my approach to blending talk and experiential therapy), lays out how to transform this theory and evidence into our psychotherapist practices to facilitate our clients becoming their best selves as well as doing our part to achieve the same for humanity." ...

Chapter 2: The Mirror

I am writing Mirror Psychology to position The Love Rule within psychology, providing the theoretical framework and latest relevant bio-psycho-social-spiritual research that exists to support this concept.

While mirror as a concept has been used in various ways in psychology in the past, the Mirror in Mirror Psychology becomes an important metaphor not only for the personal responsibility that is continually needed to succeed (looking in the mirror is a way of holding yourself accountable for your choices and actions and being honest with yourself), but, as depicted in The Love Rule (Love, 2022c), it is a reminder of why Jesus can make the claim that he does, which the latest research confirms - that love is all we need to be the best we can be as individuals and as humanity. Jesus' statement is concise and succinct - a pragmatic minimalist's dream! It is also purposeful in each word and order of words within it. Loving something bigger than yourself with all of you is first because it then reflects, or provides a mirror, of how to love yourself, with humble gratefulness and acknowledgement that you are unique in the world, and then, how you love yourself reflects, or provides a mirror, of how to love your neighbor. Elegant simplicity!" ...

Chapter 3: Foundations

"Standing on the foundation of Jesus' claim, I am unapologetically reclaiming and reconnecting the spiritual aspect of ourselves to the bio-psycho-social aspects of ourselves in Mirror Psychology. Some psychologists will say, "of course," and some will still disagree, continuing to maintain that spirituality is the antithesis of science. It used to be that psychology was also considered the antithesis of science. George Engel (1977), a physician and psychiatrist specializing in psychosomatic disorders, initiated the biopsychosocial theoretical construct that reconnected the biomedical aspects of his patients with the psychological and social aspects, pointing out that they were artificially disconnected over five centuries ago when the Catholic Church conceded the biological to science, while retaining the psychological and social domains. He maintained that because of this, the entire biomedical model of Western medicine was flawed.

I am grateful to Engels (Farre & Rapley, 2017), but the spiritual aspect of us was still left out. It shouldn't be (Burrell, 2004; Gern, 2019; Karatus & Gurhan-Canli, 2020). Researchers are now realizing what an important resource spirituality is in helping individuals to be their best selves (Ai et al., 2015; Ai et al., 2009; Lin, 2014) - as well as in helping humanity actually survive (Chowdhury, 2018; Lenfesty, 2019; Walsh, 2015). Piedmont (1999) goes as far as considering spirituality the sixth factor of personality. But then William James (1994/1902), the father of American psychology, recognized the pragmatic importance of addressing spiritual experience. Humanistic psychology originated with Abraham Maslow (1943; 1970), who discussed peak experiences, and Carl Rogers (1951; 1961; 1980), who discussed unconditional positive regard, included spirituality.

More recently, mostly in positive psychology scholarship, with some dancing around spirituality and some directly including it, the spiritual aspect of human beings is being addressed more and more.

...

Psychodynamic psychologist John Bowlby's (1969; 1982; 1991) own experience required him to part with Freudian psychoanalytic theory. He was sent away to boarding school as a child and was self-reflective enough to identify the resulting anguishing hollow ache he felt, which he later found reflected in some of his seminal research with children who had been orphaned by war. His personal experience, research, and his knowledge as a psychologist led him to develop what he termed Attachment Theory (Bretherton, 1992). Instead of Freud's constant internal tug-of-war causing mental illness, Bowlby came to argue that the ability to form and maintain secure attachments from cradle to grave made the difference between being mentally healthy and being mentally impaired or mentally ill (Cassidy et al., 2013).

Bowlby soon paired up with psychologist Mary Ainsworth (1978; 1991), whose Strange Situation research proved it. Her gold standard research found that both primary caregiver and infant needed to have the ability to form secure attachments with one another, which then affected the infant's ability to form secure attachments throughout life. Ainsworth also found that some infants are born unable to form secure attachments at all, regardless of how warm and loving the primary caregiver is, pointing to both genetic (nature) and social (nurture) factors at play." ...

Chapter 4: Awe

"Human beings' experience of awe is universal. The latest positive psychology research into awe finds that all human beings experience moments of awe similarly, regardless of our culture or where we live in the world (Bonner & Friedman, 2011; Keltner & Haidt, 2003; Zhang & Keltner, 2016). Explorations into awe find not only positive effects on self-concept but on sociality (Keltner & Haidt, 1999; Schurtz et al., 2000; Shiota et al., 2007). Pawar (2017) goes so far as to maintain that happiness lies with the loss of self. Piff et al. (2015) find that awe not only creates the small (humble, grateful) self, but also enhances pro-social behavior. Chowdhury (2018) extends this concept in their findings, maintaining that not only intrinsic religiosity, but secular pursuits that enhance communal/personal well-being and environmental well-being, with these including the experience of awe, also motivate voluntary simplicity. Griskevicius et al. (2010) found that awe and nurturant love actually protect from accepting weak persuasive messages. Wink et al.'s (2007) longitudinal study found that the more awe experienced when young, the better, as spiritual outlooks are formed by adolescence. Rudd et al. (2012) found that awe actually expands people's perception of time, alters decision making, and enhances well-being. Further research also finds that experiences of awe activate spiritual reverence (Van Cappellen & Saraglou, 2012). Lenfesty and Morgan (2019) maintain that reverence is the glue in achieving human cooperation, especially across differences. Albert Schweitzer (1936) would agree. Ai et al. (2015) find reverence to be a positive emotion important to psychological functioning. In previous research, Ai et al. (2009) found prayer and reverence in naturalistic, aesthetic, and socio-moral contexts predicted fewer complications following coronary artery bypass, linking back into Engel's (1977) bio-psycho-social model while specifically adding back in the spiritual. In this same vein, awe was found to actually reduce inflammation. Examining the link between dispositional positive affect and one potential biological pathway between positive emotions and health - proinflammatory cytokines - Stellar et al. (2015) found greater trait positive affect to be associated with lower levels of proinflammatory cytokines in a healthy sample, actually finding that awe, measured in two different ways, was the strongest predictor of lower levels of proinflammatory cytokines." ...

Chapter 5: Self

"We carry forward from our experience of loving something bigger than ourselves - our experience of awe - the reward of humble gratefulness as well as the positive affect that leads to subjective well-being, happiness, and success (Baumeister et al., 2003; Khatoon, 2015; Van Cappellen et al., 2016). It is here that we step further into positive psychology and the value of positive emotions in being our best selves (Csikszentmihalyi, 2009; Fredrickson, 2003; 2009; Seligman, 2006). I maintain that Jesus' claim intentionally states to love something bigger than ourselves first because in doing this we find the mirror for how to love our self - with humble gratefulness, with recognition of our unique sense of purpose, and with a fresh, tingling, renewed sense of belonging. Supporting this, Lin (2014) finds that a higher order gratitude uniquely predicts subjective well-being. Taking the step from our experience - this embrace of awe - to the statement "you matter" becomes easy. Awe is humbling - but it is also connecting to the vast. It is also realizing we exist within - and are a part of, are vital to - this huge vibrating something. That you exist is no small feat in, and of, itself.

In their attempt to provide a DSM of sorts in positive psychology for what is right with human beings - character strengths and virtues - to mirror the DSM-5 (APA, 2013) of what goes wrong, Petersen and Seligman (2004) also arrived at the conclusion that there are universal virtues, and that those universal virtues all lead to the overarching virtue of - kindness. I argue that kindness is the minimal type of love included in Jesus' claim and its universal versions around the world - the minimal level of kindness that I have already established and supported as necessary for humans to survive (Henrich & Muthukrishna, 2021; Perc et al.,2017; VanCleave, 2016). Their research comes to the same conclusion, with the rest of their list of virtues and character strengths serving ultimately to achieve this kindness, not only towards other human beings, but towards one's self (Petersen & Seligman, 2004). After the humble gratefulness, unique purpose, and belonging we experience about our self within moments of awe, Jesus' claim also includes this kindness as well as love towards self." ...

Chapter 6: We

"The final step and type of love in Jesus' claim is to love your neighbor. This step comes after loving yourself because you first must know how to love yourself with the humbling, all-encompassing love reflected in the first step in moments of awe before you can love your neighbor as you love yourself. How you love yourself provides the mirror for how to love your neighbor - and this, as with the rest of Jesus' succinct claim, is an important distinction. The kindness Petersen and Seligman (2004) found to be universal is relatively easy to achieve. This kindness is contained in the empathy, cooperation, and reciprocity required to survive as human beings - and in the universal versions of Jesus' claim (Henrich & Muthukrishna, 2021; Perc et al., 2017; VanCleave, 2016). But to love your neighbor as you love yourself elevates your responsibility to a whole different level, a much higher plane. In addition to loving your neighbor as you love yourself, when questioned, 'which neighbor, ' Jesus was just as clear and succinct in his answer - all of them. Jesus specifically shares the parable of the Good Samaritan in Luke 10:25-37 (KJV, 2021/1769) - a man who is robbed, beaten and left to die on the side of the road, and while many pass by, the Good Samaritan not only helps him up and gets him to care, he also pays for the care, as well as his room and board. Jesus emphatically states that your neighbor includes those with the least - not just the neighbor who is like you or the neighbor it profits you to love (Young, 1983).

We arrive back at openness to experience (McCrae, 1996; Gaab et al., 2016; Plante, 2015). We also arrive back at symbolic interaction (Dionysiou, 2017; Dionysiou et al., 2021; Blumer, 1966; 1969; Mead, 1910; 1925; 1926; 1935; 1934; 1936; Dewey, 1896; 1958/1922; 1988/1922; 2005/1939; Reck, 1984; James, 1863; 1975b/1907; Peirce,1955/1867), the social construction of reality (Berger & Luckmann, 1966; Goffman, 1959), and attachment theory (Bowlby, 1969; 1982; Ainsworth et al., 1978; Ainsworth & Bowlby, 1991). At the very core, we arrive back at the fact that - we need each other to survive (Henrich & Muthukrishna, 2021; Perc et al., 2017; VanCleave, 2016) and to thrive (Chowdhury, 2018; Lenfesty, 2019; Walsh, 2015). Sharing moments of awe together serves to cement this fact (Lenfesty, 2019). The latest neuroscience continues to confirm that not only is empathy, cooperation, reciprocity, or Petersen and Seligman's (2004) kindness, a necessity but that the requirement of forming and maintaining secure attachments is hard-wired into us as human beings (Bitterlich, 2021; Robinson, 2021; Feldman, 2015; 2016; 2020; 2021). In fact, this is so vital that when we as human beings fail at achieving and maintaining secure attachments, whether through nature or nurture or a combination of both, we become mentally impaired or mentally ill (Bowlby, 1969)." ...

Chapter 7: Nuances

"In striving to do better, beyond achieving the three steps and types of love, we must step back into the normative realm of logic and critical thinking to recognize the nuances, or underlying assumptions, also contained in Jesus' claim: personhood, unconditional love, unconditional positive regard, personal responsibility, and human equality. The first four - personhood, unconditional love, unconditional positive regard, and personal responsibility - can actually be wrapped into human equality, which deserves its own chapter later on.

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Personhood is the recognition that each human being, regardless of stage, age, or any other differentiating factor, is always worthy of the dignity of full personhood within the human community. In logical terms, it seems odd that this statement would even need to be made. Of course a person is a person. Imagine the world we would live in if humanity accepted that as unequivocally true, and if human beings saw that humanity is not what it could be until each person had reached their full potential. Imagine if our worldview changed from scarcity to abundance as a result. All boats rise with the tide. Imagine if each of us saw it as our personal obligation to not only reach our full potential but to help each one of our neighbors get what they need to reach their full potential as well - so we all could benefit from best. Imagine the economy we would have, the ideas and creativity we would all share. Imagine what our lives and our community would be like if we each knew that we matter and that each of our neighbors equally matter. Imagine if we loved and knew we were loved. This is the vision contained in Jesus' claim. There is no respecter of persons. There is no hierarchy in Jesus' claim; there are no stages, no ages, no mental or physical ability levels, no genders, no sexual orientations, no classes, no colors, no religion, no better than, no higher, no lower. There are no distinctions, there are no exceptions, there are no disclaimers, there are no qualifiers, there are no stipulations, there are no footnotes, there is no fine print. Period.

Further, Jesus' claim states that these two commandments to love supersede all law and all prophets. Jesus literally states: "On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets" (KJV, 2021/1769, Matthew 22:37-40). As already mentioned, Jesus elucidates this precise personhood point for those asking which neighbor in the Good Samaritan parable in Luke 10:25-37 (KJV, 2021/1769). It is important to note that Jesus not only emphasized that the person who was robbed, beaten and left to die on the side of the road could have been any one of us, but specifically made a Samaritan the hero of the story because the lawyer he was responding to who specifically asked which neighbor was Jewish, Samaritans were not Jews, and, in fact, the Jews despised the Samaritans. Jesus' claim was - and is - revolutionary. If you could love and care for someone you despise - or allow someone you despise to love and care for you; if you could lay your most precious gifts at the feet of your most despised enemy with only love in your heart - that is the most revolutionary act humanity could ever do." ...

Chapter 8: Human Equality

"Here we come full circle. We once again address how ragged reciprocity has become around the edges today. We revisit Jesus claim' that love can fix it, that love is truly all we need to become our best selves, that love is truly all we need to achieve peaceful flourishing for humanity.

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I want to reiterate here a point I made earlier that economics, law and policy serve minds - and that human equality cannot be achieved until we change individual minds and behavior. McCloskey (2021) is a rare academic whose meticulous historical research confirms this fact, pointing out that it was the entrepreneurs and artisans embracing the idea of equality and then acting upon it - not capital - that brought us the furthest.

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"We also must not forget what human equality actually means. It does not mean take from one person through economics, laws or policies what they have worked hard for and give it to another person. I have seen the result of this firsthand on an academic visit to Cuba just after the fall of the Soviet Union, and we have all seen the results of this around the world throughout time. Again, this does nothing to change minds - and this does not achieve human equality. Remember William James (1975b; 1907) saying people think they are thinking when they are just reorganizing their prejudices. This is basically what I observed firsthand, and this is what we know as the outcome - only the person in power changes while inflicting more individual and innovative restraint rather than more freedom.

At the very core of it, why is taking from one to give to another not what human equality means? Because, within The Love Rule, none of us would want to have what we worked hard for taken away from us and given to someone else. No one would have any incentive to work hard, to innovate, to create, to dream - or to think for themselves"...

Chapter 9: The Final rEvolution

"Revolutions are messy - and fatal. Thought revolutions are less messy, not fatal - and much more effective. I call this the final rEvolution because, after all of my research, logic and critical thinking, I support Jesus' nearly 2000 year old claim that, as human thoughts and behaviors go - it is. Invoking The Love Rule as our new narrative in word and deed could be just - relief - enabling us to thrive individually and together in human community. Reviewing the concept of revolution in academic journals, just to mention a few here with more found in the reference section of this book, scholars weave this concept into education (Barcelos, 2021; Johnson et al., 2019; Wynter-Hoyte et al., 2021), but mostly, as one would expect, into politics (Charania, 2019; Howard, 2021; Kaur, 2021).

Remember McCloskey's (2021) breakthrough research that it was not economics or law or policy, but the idea of equality that entrepreneurs and artisans began acting upon that brought us the furthest so far towards our goal. In equally groundbreaking, meticulous, historical research on his music and culture, pulling the thread all the way back to ancient Egypt, Chris Thomas King (2021) not only finally sets the record straight on the true origin of The Blues, but has proven McCloskey's claim to equally be true from as early as 1513 in what became southern Louisiana among free Creole settlers of African descent. Creole originally defined any person of African descent living within a Spanish colony (after Louisiana joined the United States of America as a state three centuries later in 1812, all Louisianans - Africans, Spaniards and French - began identifying as Creole to distinguish themselves from Anglicized Black and White American newcomers). It had nothing to do with interracial mixing or skin hue - that was an Anglo narrative. Further, Negro is the Spanish term for "black" and was not originally pejorative - simply descriptive (Thomas King, 2021).

These free Creole settlers of African descent first came with Ponce de Leon when he claimed what was named La Florida, which extended from the eastern coast of Florida all the way along America's southern border to California, for the Spanish crown. Of course, this claim did not recognize that it was all actually Native land. While territory ownership went back and forth between Spain and France several times, that just served to richen the local cultural gumbo. They were bold, educated, thriving entrepreneurs and highly-trained, adept, innovative musicians and artisans, with their own operas, theaters, orchestras, cultural centers, and galleries (of course, there were also bordellos and patriarchy and class - and The Love Rule would successfully challenge anyone claiming that working in a bordello is achieving their highest personal potential as well as extinguish patriarchy and class). They were who created the bustling cosmopolitan international port of New Orleans, settling over 100 years before the first enslaved Africans set foot in Jamestown in 1619 or the Mayflower Puritan settlers landed at Plymouth Rock in 1620 (Thomas King, 2021)." ...

No "archy" can exist if we are to reach the rEvolution finish line - no class, no caste, no "us" vs. "them." There is no "other." None of this exists within The Love Rule. In order to fully implement Jesus' claim, there must be no question that each and every person, regardless of stage, age, or any other differentiating factor, be included in every word and deed with an equal place and an equal voice at the roundtable of humanity achieving its best. We cannot settle for less - or we will not achieve our goal. We will continue to fall short. We will continue to fail. We will continue to leave people out. Our efforts will continue to contain - hypocrisy.

It is time to take up Jesus' revolutionary challenge and perform the most rEvolutionary act a human being can of laying our most precious gifts at our most despised enemies' feet with only love for them in our hearts. In doing this, our hope and prayer is that they will join us at The Love Rule roundtable to begin creating our new narrative and weaving it into the fabric of our everyday lives - together. Looking through The Love Rule lens, we can see exactly how we have tattered Jesus' claim today and across time. Remember, every person deserves an equal place and an equal voice at The Love Rule roundtable - even those of us who have traditionally felt the selfish need and were given the ability by the current "archy" to tatter the edges of Jesus' claim with diversions, divisions, and even institutionalized barriers. We must all listen. To move forward together successfully - we must all listen through the ears of The Love Rule.

If those of us who have felt trapped by those diversions, divisions and institutionalized barriers feel hurt and protective and defensive - and, yes, even rage - and find it very difficult to listen to those of us who traditionally have put those blockades in place - let alone invoke The Love Rule towards them - then we must start with a minimum commitment to unconditional positive regard at the roundtable. We must. It is true that some of us who want to keep the blockades in place will not even be willing to sit at The Love Rule roundtable with us. It is true that some of us who have been hurt will not even be willing to sit at The Love Rule roundtable with us. That is their choice. But, for the rest of us - it is also our choice to move humanity forward. If it feels hard, realize that achieving the ultimate rEvolution is no harder than switching paradigms from negative to positive psychology, seeking strength rather than weakness. It is also, at its core, what Benjamin Franklin (1906) said: "What you appear to be, be really."

I hope that you will make the choice to join me at The Love Rule roundtable and become part of the solution in this rEvolution.

Chapter 10: Conclusion

"At the end of the day, as a pragmatic minimalist, I agree with Einstein (1919) regarding something bigger than ourselves: that the details are irrelevant; it is the thoughts that count. Yet, I am curious what you, as a psychotherapist, would make of encountering this person Jesus - knowing nothing of him prior. I imagine this person showing up - knowing only what he speaks. He agrees to a horse ride, so we climb on horses to go for a ride along the river. He starts to talk while I listen. Riding beside me is a man who claims to be, and completely believes, he is God incarnate. I might first want to identify what culture he is from, in case this might provide me with a culturally acceptable explanation for his claim - hoping I have encountered his culture in research, and, as a backup plan, thinking about the list of colleagues in my network from cultures different than mine that I can confer with on his case, if need be. I also need to consider his religious beliefs, with the same game plan. I continue to listen for more clues. Meanwhile, the clinical psychologist database in my brain, just like yours, might start spewing out the conditions that could include the ultimate illusion of grandeur - narcissistic personality disorder, psychopathic personality disorder, dissociative disorder, schizophrenia, just to name a few.

Then he states he intends to sacrifice his life for the rest of us and that it is up to each individual to exercise their free will to either believe and accept or reject his gift of grace and mercy, but that if an individual chooses to accept his gift, they will no longer need to turn away from God in guilt and shame when they do something wrong, or experience emotional burdens, knowing that they are forgiven - and precious - and will have eternal life. Hmmm.... Forensic case studies begin swirling in my brain of real-life narcissists and psychopaths who have created cults around themselves claiming to be divine. They don't usually offer to sacrifice for the followers they convince - it tends to be the other way around - and if the leader successfully makes a show of sacrifice - they certainly are not willing to sacrifice their life so their followers can be free of emotional burdens and guilt and shame. I continue to listen." ...

When I, like all of us, started down the path of searching for the most impactful way to effect positive change for individuals and humanity, I never imagined I would end up here. Like all of us, I imagined I would need to think and think and think in order to come up with some new insight as I diligently researched to achieve my goal. I assumed I would have to come up with something no one else had ever thought of yet - reasoning if someone had already thought of it, I wouldn't need to do any of this and I'd be free to do all of the other things I enjoy. Let's be real - I, perhaps like you, would rather do all of the other things - yet I do this because I feel I must. I have lived my life with an ache of responsibility to do something - an ache that I know will never go away until I do. I ponder if William James chose being a psychologist over being an artist for the same reason. Thankfully, I have figured out how to blend the two through experiential therapy. Being a pragmatic minimalist and honoring logic and critical thinking saved me from the "something no one else has ever thought of" fate. I want results. It was actually all the research I had been doing around relationships - and finding not only attachment theory but the latest neuroscience research focused on love - that led me to the decision to thoroughly test Jesus' claim. I then realized speaking it versus doing it is the difference - no matter who spoke it or how long ago it was spoken. You have read my results.

We are necessarily just getting started. We must do much more than speak of love. The Love Rule roundtable needs to physically exist in layers within our real life - from our homes to our practices to our communities to our counties to our states to our nation to our world. Remember, first, we must change minds, then move those changed minds to act. I attempt this feat through The Love Rule (Love, 2022c), and by then providing Mirror Psychology and Mirror Psychotherapy blended with Mirror Experiential Therapy as praxis for us all to utilize towards our mission of improving the bio-psycho-social-spiritual well-being of individuals and humanity - our shared mission of creating humanity at its best.

I hope you will join me."

Mirror Experiential Therapy

Chapter 1: The Love Rule

"Mirror Experiential Therapy, like Mirror Psychology (Love, 2022a), stands on a foundation of The Love Rule (Love, 2022b). In a brief summary, I wrote the book The Love Rule with the intent of it being the (old) new narrative we can tap into, not only for achieving peaceful flourishing on the humanity level, but also as the new narrative, from a pragmatic minimalist's perspective, for quickly and efficiently achieving secure attachments through brief psychotherapy blended with experiential therapy within our relationships with something bigger than ourselves, in relationship with ourselves, and in our love relationships, family relationships and community relationships.

I call it the old-new narrative because it is fundamentally based on Jesus' claim in Matthew 22:37-40 that love is all we need to be the best we can be - as individuals and as human beings - which neuroscience and the latest bio-psycho- social-spiritual research is now continually proving to be true (Love, 2022a). Whether you believe Jesus is God incarnate, a prophet, a wise man, or just another person like you and me, I decided this statement was worthy of nearly 20 years of investigation, ending up with a doctorate in clinical psychology, and my life's work in an attempt to make a difference in the world. While also serving to convince me of how much we still don't know about us as complex human beings, my studies only emboldened me in applying this audacious claim. Jesus' claim is very old - and versions of it are universal - but I believe these to be among it's strengths.

What is new - and even rEvolutionary - is actually applying it in the microcosm of our daily lives, in our moment-to-moment decisions. As psychotherapists, it is rEvolutionary, with this book, by facilitating its application with our clients to reduce their distress, improve their quality of life - and, yes, I am going to make a bold claim - achieve the fulfilling higher power, self, and we relationships we all seek in our lives. This book is written to a psychotherapist audience, but its practical intent is to be accessible to any mentally healthy person or persons wishing to apply Mirror Experiential Therapy in their lives, playing the client role depicted here. Implementing Mirror Experiential Therapy's authenticity and transparency within the therapeutic relationship makes this possible. There is no Wizard of Oz here hiding behind a curtain. Both psychotherapist and client must come to this approach being authentic and transparent in order to harvest the rewards to be found within Mirror Experiential Therapy.

If a person is working towards mental health, but is currently facing mental health challenges that can be determined to some degree in the pre-therapy assessment, then the presence of a qualified psychotherapist is highly recommended in moving forward with Mirror Experiential Therapy. That is what we are here for - that is what all of our years of training and ongoing forever training are for - to help persons facing mental health challenges achieve their best life." ...

Chapter 2: The Mirror

"I wrote the book Mirror Psychology to position The Love Rule within psychology, providing the theoretical framework and latest relevant bio-psycho-social-spiritual and neuroscience research that exists to support this concept. If you would like to review all of the theory and research underlying Mirror Psychotherapy blended with Mirror Experiential Therapy, then I recommend you read Mirror Psychology (Love, 2022a). This book, Mirror Experiential Therapy, provides the pragmatic application of Mirror Psychology's theory and research.

The Mirror in Mirror Psychology and Mirror Experiential Therapy becomes an important metaphor not only for the personal responsibility that is continually needed to succeed (looking in the mirror is a way of holding yourself accountable for your choices and actions and being honest with yourself), but, as depicted in The Love Rule, it is a reminder of why Jesus (KJV, 2021/1769) can make the claim that he does, which the latest research confirms - that love is all we need to be the best we can be as individuals and as humanity. Jesus' statement is concise and succinct - a pragmatic minimalist's dream! It is also purposeful in each word and order of words within it. Loving something bigger than yourself with all of you is first because it then reflects, or provides a mirror, of how to love yourself, with humble gratefulness and acknowledgement that you are unique in the world, and then, how you love yourself reflects, or provides a mirror, of how to love your neighbor. Elegant simplicity!

Chapter 3: Case Study

"My grandmother, who lived to be 99, passing 3 days before her 100th birthday, always said, "The proof is in the pudding." I never forgot this. Perhaps that is why I am a pragmatic minimalist. Solid theory is important, scientific research is important - but, in psychology, for me the results in application are what ultimately matter. Theory and research, after all, are only as good in therapy as the clients' lives they improve through application.

In preparation for becoming a clinical psychologist, it is highly recommended, and often required, that the PsyD candidate attend psychotherapy as a client. The important reasons are two-fold: 1) Understand firsthand what psychotherapy looks and feels like from the client's perspective, and 2) we are human beings and it is important that we are mentally healthy before putting ourselves out there to help others, whether helping mentally healthy individuals or individuals experiencing mental health challenges live their best lives. It just makes sense.

Abiding by Mirror Experiential Therapy's requirement of coming to it with authenticity and transparency, the case study I am about to present is my and my husband's (with his permission) experience in couples therapy to meet that requirement and the seminal corner I turned in arriving at exactly how to execute Mirror Psychotherapy blended with Mirror Experiential Therapy through that experience." ...

Chapter 4: Do, Feel, Then Perhaps, Talk

"As a profession, psychology justifies its existence through the claim that it eliminates distress and improves the quality of people's lives - and, yet, psychology, so far, mostly expects people to think and then talk about their problems in order to achieve those goals. Growing up as a cowgirl on a horse and cattle ranch, I learned the hard way that the old adage, "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink" - is true. The same is true of people. You cannot eliminate distress and improve quality of life for anyone who is not willing and able. As a successful personal and professional development consultant for over 30 years in corporate America, I would pull out this simple Willing and Able chart first thing:

I would not proceed with any personal or professional development strategies until the manager had identified only the Willing and Able for me to train. I warned these managers that if they tried to slip anyone but the willing and able into my creative, interactive, experiential-based training, it would become obvious very quickly. I would stop the session, take the manager aside, and ask them to, again, remove everyone except the willing and able. They would ask me what to do with the rest of the people they had planned on plopping in my training for the day, what, for me to babysit? They didn't like my answer - which were questions: "If they are not willing or able - why did you hire them? Why are they here? Aren't your time and energy and resources more valuable than to be wasted on anyone but the willing and able? What are we doing here? Do you value my time? Do you want results? For all but the managers who shouldn't be there either, the light bulb would go on, and they would switch gears on who they would weed out and who they would hire from then on, using this simple concept and chart, which made their lives as managers so much easier going forward and my development efforts successful. Seems obvious, right? Well, you'd be surprised....

Back to psychology, considering all of the people in the world on a pie chart, how big is the slice of those people who are willing and able to talk about their problems?" ...

Chapter 5: Client Consult & Agreement

"You're still with me - so let's dig in. Of course, before performing psychotherapy with anyone, it is vital from an ethical and legal standpoint to make certain you and any potential client are a good fit. I recommend providing a free 30-minute consultation to each prospective client to listen to why they are seeking your help. This is also where it is important for you to look in your own mirror and be honest with yourself about cultural fit. Hopefully, you have tapped into a network of referral resources in case another provider or program is a better fit. Once you have heard this potential client, you must decide whether to accept them as your client or refer them. If you decide to accept them as a new client, then you need to provide them with details about your practice, legal and ethical parameters that you are committed to abide by, and obtain their consent in a written client agreement (Fisher, 2013). You need their commitment to completing pre- and post-therapy assessments within this agreement. I also advise getting their permission in this client agreement to film your experiential therapy with them, offering them a copy at the end of therapy. Of course, if you intend to use any part of their therapy in published research or to share any of it in any other way, you need to obtain their permission with clear details in this client agreement, as well as the approval of the appropriate IRB.

Let the story begin." ...

Chapter 6: Pre-Therapy Assessment

"Your new client has told you why they are seeking your help, but it is also important to complete a brief pre-therapy assessment for at least three reasons: 1) as long as you use evidence-based assessment tools, you are establishing the first step towards a gold standard research foundation for the psychotherapy you perform with your client, which helps not only your psychotherapist colleagues constantly improve, but establishes client improvement, which is what ultimately matters; 2) pre-therapy assessment may deepen your understanding of the client's baseline situation, possibly uncovering more than the client already shared, which helps you do your job more effectively; and 3) the tools recommended for use in Mirror Experiential Therapy are actually designed to provide you with an inventory of the existing bio-psycho-social-spiritual resource capital clients already have in their lives that they can tap into and that you can build upon.

Psychology has an almost endless supply of evidence-based assessments for you to utilize, with a few noted here and a sampling of more listed in the reference section of this book." ...

Chapter 7: Mirror Experiential Therapy: Awe

"The most important take-away from the pre-therapy assessment is the inventory of existing resource capital clients already have in their lives to tap into in the different areas addressed in Mirror Experiential Therapy. This inventory literally provides you with a roadmap of what your client has available and what you need to build upon. This will determine what you will be doing experientially with each client.

From a theoretical construct perspective, Mirror Experiential Therapy is first a bio-psycho-social approach adding spiritual to that, believing, with an evidence-basis, that the spiritual aspects of human beings must be included in helping clients to achieve living their best lives (Ai et al., 2015; Ai et al., 2009; Lin, 2014), as well as in helping humanity actually survive (Chowdhury, 2018; Lenfesty, 2019; Walsh, 2015). Piedmont (1999) goes as far as considering spirituality the sixth factor of personality. Of course, I, like Johnson (2019), pragmatically believe in integrating as many evidence-based theories and therapeutic approaches into the Mirror Experiential Therapy palette as deemed necessary to achieve the best results.

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Specifically regarding Mirror Experiential Therapy around awe, what you learned about your new client's higher power awareness and resource capital will guide you to what makes sense to do with your client in this regard. Ethically, I must emphasize here that we are psychologists - not preachers. If we are psychotherapists truly facilitating client-centered (Johnson, 2019; Maslow, 1943; Rogers 1951; 1961; 1980) growth, then we follow the client's lead regarding their beliefs (Battiste, 2002; Pedersen et al., 2016), even if that means relying on our referral network, rather than the other way around. What I do not believe or believe personally from a spiritual perspective is irrelevant here within the boundaries set down within The Love Rule and Mirror Psychology of the universal experience of awe (Bonner & Friedman, 2011; Keltner & Haidt, 2003; Zhang & Keltner, 2016). Ethically, in this same vein, we do not break any laws nor any psychological code boundaries in experiencing awe together (Fisher, 2013). It goes without saying that we also must be comfortable and qualified to provide any experiential therapy we embark upon with our clients. If you are not qualified to take your client rafting down whitewater rapids - please don't - without a professional guide! We have established the boundary of the inclusive and easily accessible human experience of awe - the client's stated boundaries guide us from there.

Let's pick up the story here." ...

Chapter 8: Mirror Experiential Therapy: Self

"Consider the four-wheeling canoeing journey we went on in our narrative scenario in the last chapter. Not only is this journey filled to the brim with potential awe moments, it is also busting out with opportunities to engage in healthy grateful love of self. I shared the philosophy in The Love Rule (Love, 2022b) and the theory and research in Mirror Psychology (Love, 2022a) as to why loving yourself is vital - before you can authentically love anyone else. Achieving a secure attachment with self as a resource is the second step of our mission. Your client's pre-therapy assessments, again, provide you with the roadmap of their current resource capital in this area, and where you can facilitate improvement. Mirror Experiential Therapy around loving self, simply put, injects lots of opportunities for your client to look in their own mirror - to not only internalize new strengths they discover about themselves figuring out what they are made of - but to question and hopefully dismiss perceptions of themselves that do not match up with real - creating a new, healthy grateful self narrative. And discovering real comes through doing.

Based on your client's capability identified in their pre-therapy assessment, determine what you can have them do. On our four-wheeling canoeing adventure, if appropriate, let your client drive the pickup, navigating the switchbacks, rocks, washboards, and holes. You are sitting right beside them to assist if needed. Let them feel your trust in them. Let them feel your support." ...

Chapter 9: Mirror Experiential Therapy: We

"We have arrived at the place where you are likely to find your client is most challenged. After all, except for mental disorders caused by genetics or biology or physical injury (which you ought to be working collaboratively with a bio-psycho- social-spiritual team of experts to address), problematic relationships with other human beings are the source of the remaining mental challenges. After achieving a higher power secure attachment resource, and achieving a secure attachment with self resource, the third, and final step of our mission is to achieve secure attachments with others. I always try to include a service component here. In my experience, if you want to find yourself, help someone else, and you'll find your best self coming around the corner. It is not hard to find a source of positive interactions through volunteering in your community, which goes a long way in counteracting negative interactions, especially if your client's current primary relationships with others are negative - or even harmful. Volunteering together definitely qualifies as experiential therapy. The realization that there is always someone else who is worse off than you, sincerely helping them and feeling their genuine appreciation is up there on the magic of awe level. In addition, I really do like to involve horses (or dogs in a pinch) whenever I can in this strategy. In our narrative four-wheeling canoeing scenario, instead of a pickup, you may decide to ride horses up to the lake, with a pack horse carrying the canoe. Horses tend to add in such a rich layer to the experience. As a psychotherapist, comparatively speaking, horses provide me with a lot more information about clients through their interaction with the horse than, for instance, dogs who tend to be more self-absorbed in their excitement, loving everyone, unless they are trained otherwise.

...

Mirror work - is fierce and fearless. It must be. It is true that "the greatest thing you will ever learn is just to love and be loved in return" (Ahbez, 1938). Being this vulnerable is also the bravest thing you can ever do as a person. Mirror work immediately shows you what you are made of in the most important human pursuit there is. Mustering all of your intrinsic motivation, your bold courage, your leather grit, your deep resilience - standing on your loving something bigger and your humbly and gratefully loving yourself as resources - in addition to your clear desire to love this person you are heroically reaching out to grasp and securely hold onto, putting everything on the line towards creating and maintaining a secure attachment - the ultimate prize.

This mirror work is definitely not for those wanting to participate in years of talk therapy; it is not for those who want to pull rank; it is not for the game-players; it is not for those who want to continue to do passive-aggressive grenade throwing from behind their brick wall; it is not for the faint of heart; it is not for the person lacking commitment; or for anyone who doesn't want to dive right into the thick of the wound and really heal it. Any of these people will be made extremely uncomfortable by mirror work - and will be looking for the nearest exit to flee. We must let them. Mirror work thunders out the primal battle cry that life is too short and we matter too much to settle for less than secure attachments for those who love one another - and for humanity as a whole.

In fact, I fully recognize that mirror work would make all of the psychotherapists whose comfort zone boundary is cognition and talk extremely uncomfortable. Johnson (2019) stated prior to her creating her version of emotionally focused therapy (EFT) that emotion was a dirty word in therapy. Well, I must warn that mirror work may even make those psychotherapists who currently incorporate some behavioral and emotional modalities into their approach - extremely uncomfortable. Mirror work immediately throws down the gauntlet on the battlefield of relational conflict, if you will; it immediately breaks the impasse, it immediately evaporates the facades, and it immediately susses out who is serious enough to take immediate courageous action towards one another as human beings. It is like viscerally living the most climactic moment of any book or film in real life. It is definitely - go big or go home - if you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem - move forward or get out of the way - territory. If you are in as a psychotherapist, it inevitably means mirror work for you, too. Rather than prim and proper niceties or cordial civilities, it is behavioral and emotional going for broke, smashing through brick walls, white-knuckle, whitewater rapids, brutally honest, breathless relationship cliff-clutching.

...

Yet, again, in line with The Love Rule (Love, 2022b) and Mirror Psychology (Love, 2022a) - mirror work is a pragmatic minimalist's dream! As long as the participants are each willing and able, genuinely wanting to reach resolution to the injury and issue, each person can immediately imagine what it would feel like - and a heartfelt apology ought to be immediately forthcoming to heal the wound, enabling them to move forward. Then their participation in tailored experiential therapy will enable them to do their healed secure attachment, to cement their commitment, to facilitate their enacting a new, healthy relationship narrative.

What if the injured person cannot quite articulate the injury or injuries they feel? What if their trust has been damaged? Then switch the order of Mirror Experiential Therapy with Mirror Psychotherapy. Begin with the two participating in tailored trust- and team-building experiential therapy. This doing may achieve much in assisting the injured person to access what they are feeling in regards to the person they feel injured by. For some clients, doing, then feeling - together - may resolve the issue all on its own. It could renew their bond. It could remind them that they like each other, it could remind them that they love each other." ...

Chapter 10: Post-Therapy Assessment

"Because we are scientists as well as psychologists - it is important to have your client complete post-therapy assessments covering the same ground they covered in their pre-therapy assessments to complete the circle. Remember they agreed to complete both pre- and post-therapy assessments in the initial client agreement they signed. Hopefully, they also agreed to filming - make sure they receive a copy. I would also add a professional competence assessment (Taylor, 2015) and a therapeutic alliance assessment (Cahill et al., 2012) in the post-therapy assessment to clarify what you are doing well as a psychotherapist and where you could improve. If you intend to use any of these assessments or video in research to be shared or published, you need to have obtained prior permission from your client in the client agreement and from the appropriate IRB. I would certainly look forward to seeing your research.

At the very least, if you do not intend to share - as a professional, make sure you constantly carve out adequate time to review and actually take the steps necessary to always improve your approach to Mirror Experiential Therapy. This is where you look in your own mirror. Your clients' pre- and post-assessments and experiential therapy video provide you with a wealth of information about how you are doing as a psychotherapist and how effective you are in meeting your overarching objective for your clients of reducing their distress and improving the quality of their lives.

...

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Episode 1: Introduction

DEDICATION
This is dedicated to all human beings on planet earth - and beyond - if there are any....

Episode 2: Chapter 1 What If...

     "Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets." ~Jesus Christ
(The Holy Bible, King James Version, Matthew 22:37-40).
     What if it is true? What if this is it? What if being the best person we can be comes down to this? Whether you believe Jesus Christ is God incarnate, or a prophet, or a wise man, or even just another person like you and me - being a pragmatic minimalist, I decided that this claim that has stood the test of time - that all humans need to flourish is to abide by these two commandments - was worthy of investigation, and worthy of becoming my life's work in an effort to make a difference in the world....

Episode 3: Chapter 2 Universal...

     What could be considered versions of this claim are universal across cultures:
• Common Sense throughout time: “Treat people the way you’d like to be
treated.”
• Hinduism: 3200 BC, from the Hitopadesa: “One should always treat
others as they themselves wish to be treated.”
• Judaism: 1300 BC, from the Old Testament, Leviticus 19:18: “Thou shalt
love thy neighbor as thyself.”
• Zoroastrianism: 600 BC, from the Shastna-shayast 13:29: “Whatever is
disagreeable to yourself, do not do unto others.”
• Buddhism: 560 BC from the Udanavarga 5:18: “Hurt not others with that
which pains yourself.”
• Confucianism: 557 BC, from the Analects 15:23: “What you do not want
done to yourself, do not do to others.”
• Christianity: 30 AD, from the Bible - King James Version, Matthew
22:39, Jesus said: “Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.” And going even further, in John 13:33 Jesus said: “A new commandment I give unto you, that ye love one another as I have loved you.”
• Islam: 632 AD, from the hadith Kitab al-Kafi, vol. 2, p. 146 - “As you would have people do to you, do to them; and what you dislike to be done to you, don’t do to them." 
     This merely brings us closer to what I have come to term the social imperative....

Episode 4: Chapter 3 ...Yet Unique

     While it could be argued that cultures around the world universally make a somewhat similar statement regarding reciprocity, they don't goes as far as stating love and they don't make the claim that, in essence, love is all that human beings need to flourish as Jesus' claim does. In fact, of the reciprocity edicts I have found, only Judaism in 1300 BC in Leviticus 19:18 in the Old Testament, and Jesus quoted in 30 AD in Matthew 22:39 in the New Testament specifically state love. Yes, love requires a whole different level than treat or do....

Episode 5: Chapter 4 Three Kinds of Love

When you unpack Jesus' claim, you find three steps that include three types of love:
1) Love something bigger than yourself with all of you,
2) Love yourself,
3) Love your neighbor as you love yourself....

Episode 6: Chapter 5 Awe

     How can we invoke awe? It would make sense to say that the more moments of awe we experience, the more love for awe we experience. Typing the word r-e-a-l-i-t-y contains seven moments of my reality. Reality only exists in the current moment. A previous moment has past. A future moment has not yet occurred. Just recognizing this fact allows you the space to experience awe....

Episode 7: Chapter 6 Self

     How can we invoke humble, healthy self love? Make sure self is on your grateful list to start! Love and fear cannot exist in the same space at the same time - so choose love. Appreciation and fear, or disgust or guilt or shame, cannot exist in the same space at the same time - so choose appreciation. If you don't believe me, try it. I only want to put in this pragmatic, minimalist book what every human being can experience for themself. Try calling up love and fear in the same moment. Won't happen! Try being grateful and disgusted in the same moment. Nope!....

Episode 8: Chapter 7 We

     How can we invoke love for our neighbor? More specifically, how can we invoke love for our neighbor that reaches both the level of our all-encompassing love in moments of awe and the resulting mirrored love for our self? Further, how can we invoke love for not just our favorite neighbor, not just our neighbor who is like us, not just our neighbor who it may profit us to love, but as Jesus clarifies for his claim in Matthew 25:40 "these the least of my brethren?" How can we invoke love for those of us who only have love to give in return?....

Episode 9: Chapter 8 Nuances

    After taking all of the love steps in Jesus' claim, it is important to recognize the nuances contained within these statements as well. These nuances are vital to fully achieving our goal of peaceful flourishing for humanity. From a pragmatic minimalist perspective, I am going to highlight five nuances: personhood, unconditional love, unconditional positive regard, personal responsibility, and human equality. These five conditions are built into Jesus' claim, along with the three steps and types of love. In fact, personhood, unconditional love, unconditional positive regard, and personal responsibility are actually wrapped into human equality....

Episode 10: Chapter 9 Human Equality

     Here we come full circle. We are back to addressing how ragged reciprocity has become around the edges today. We are back to Jesus claim' that love can fix it, that love is all we need to become our best selves, that love is all we need to achieve peaceful flourishing for humanity....

Episode 11: Chapter 10 The Final rEvolution

     I intend The Love Rule to be our new narrative that will enable us to thrive individually and collectively. Yes, it is actually extremely old - and versions of it are universal - but I see that as strengths. A pragmatic minimalists' dream! What hasn't happened, what is new, is actually translating Jesus' statement into the tapestry of our lives in the here and now - actually evoking a new, detailed narrative for the world as we want it to be, so we can make it so....

References by Chapter

Bibliography

Cerys Love PsyD reads 
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Copyright © 2022 Mirari Press.™ All rights reserved. Mirari Press.™ The Love Rule.™ Mirror Psychology.™ Mirror Psychotherapy.™ Mirror Experiential Therapy.™ Mirror Experiential Outreach.™ Mirror Social Psychology.™ Written and read as Cerys Love PsyD™ by Sherese Chrétien PsyD, CPPC, CPSP for Eliyora Entertainment LLC, a division of Paradunai LLC. Ever Entertainment.® All copyrights, trademarks & images property of Paradunai LLC. All personas and concepts created by Sherese Chrétien PsyD, CPSP, CPPC.
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Episode 1: Introduction

DEDICATION
To all psychologists striving towards human flourishing.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
Gratitude to all of the scientists trying to decipher human beings
and the world we live in....

Episode 2: Chapter 1 The Love Rule

     Mirror Psychology stands on a foundation of The Love Rule (Love, 2022c). In a brief summary, I wrote the book The Love Rule with the intent of it being the (old) new narrative we can tap into, not only for achieving peaceful flourishing on the humanity level, but also as the new narrative, from a pragmatic minimalist's perspective, for quickly and efficiently achieving secure attachments through brief psychotherapy blended with experiential therapy within our relationships with something bigger than ourselves, in relationship with ourselves, and in our love relationships, family relationships and community relationships....

Episode 3: Chapter 2 The Mirror

     I am writing Mirror Psychology to position The Love Rule within psychology, providing the theoretical framework and latest relevant bio-psycho-social-spiritual research that exists to support this concept.
     While mirror as a concept has been used in various ways in psychology in the past, the Mirror in Mirror Psychology becomes an important metaphor not only for the personal responsibility that is continually needed to succeed (looking in the mirror is a way of holding yourself accountable for your choices and actions and being honest with yourself), but, as depicted in The Love Rule (Love, 2022c), it is a reminder of why Jesus can make the claim that he does which the latest research confirms - that love is all we need to be the best we can be as individuals and as humanity....

Episode 4: Chapter 3 Foundations

     Standing on the foundation of Jesus' claim, I am unapologetically reclaiming and reconnecting the spiritual aspect of ourselves to the bio-psycho-social aspects of ourselves in Mirror Psychology. Some psychologists will say, "of course," and some will still disagree, continuing to maintain that spirituality is the antithesis of science. It used to be that psychology was also considered the antithesis of science....

Episode 5: Chapter 4 Awe

     Human beings' experience of awe is universal. The latest positive psychology research into awe finds that all human beings experience moments of awe similarly, regardless of our culture or where we live in the world (Bonner & Friedman, 2011; Keltner & Haidt, 2003; Zhang & Keltner, 2016). Explorations into awe find not only positive effects on self-concept but on sociality (Keltner & Haidt, 1999; Schurtz et al., 2000; Shiota et al., 2007). Pawar (2017) goes so far as to maintain that happiness lies with the loss of self. Piff et al. (2015) finds that awe not only creates the small (humble, grateful) self, but also enhances pro-social behavior....

Episode 6: Chapter 5 Self

     We carry forward from our experience of loving something bigger than ourselves - our experience of awe - the reward of humble gratefulness as well as the positive affect that leads to subjective well-being, happiness, and success (Baumeister et al., 2003; Khatoon, 2015; Van Cappellen et al., 2016). It is here that we step further into positive psychology and the value of positive emotions in being our best selves (Csikszentmihalyi, 2009; Fredrickson, 2003; 2009; Seligman, 2006). I maintain that Jesus' claim intentionally states to love something bigger than ourselves first because in doing this we find the mirror for how to love our self - with humble gratefulness, with recognition of our unique sense of purpose, and with a fresh, tingling, renewed sense of belonging. Supporting this, Lin (2014) finds that a higher order gratitude uniquely predicts subjective well- being....

Episode 7: Chapter 6 We

     The final step and type of love in Jesus' claim is to love your neighbor. This step comes after loving yourself because you first must know how to love yourself with the humbling all-encompassing love reflected in the first step in moments of awe before you can love your neighbor as you love yourself. How you love yourself provides the mirror for how to love your neighbor - and this, as with the rest of Jesus' succinct claim, is an important distinction. The kindness Petersen and Seligman (2004) found to be universal is relatively easy to achieve. This kindness is contained in the empathy, cooperation and reciprocity required to survive as human beings - and in the universal versions of Jesus' claim (Henrich & Muthukrishna, 2021; Perc et al., 2017; VanCleave, 2016). But to love your neighbor as you love yourself elevates your responsibility to a whole different level, a much higher plane....

Episode 8: Chapter 7 Nuances

     In striving to do better, beyond achieving the three steps and types of love, we must step back into the normative realm of logic and critical thinking to recognize the nuances, or underlying assumptions, also contained in Jesus' claim: personhood, unconditional love, unconditional positive regard, personal responsibility, and human equality. The first four - personhood, unconditional love, unconditional positive regard, and personal responsibility - can actually be wrapped into human equality....

Episode 9: Chapter 7 Nuances - Personhood

     Personhood is the recognition that each human being, regardless of stage, age, or any other differentiating factor, is always worthy of the dignity of full personhood within the human community. In logical terms, it seems odd that this statement would even need to be made. Of course a person is a person. Imagine the world we would live in if humanity accepted that as unequivocally true, and if human beings saw that humanity is not what it could be until each person had reached their full potential....

Episode 10: Chapter 7 Nuances - Unconditional Love

     Unconditional Love or love without conditions attached to it - is cocooned within Jesus' stipulation that we love all of our neighbors, and that we love ourselves, with the kind of love mirrored within the all-encompassing love we experience surrounding us in moments of awe, this love that engulfs us....

Episode 11: Chapter 7 Nuances - Unconditional Positive Regard

     Unconditional Positive Regard is related to unconditional love but it addresses and even celebrates our differences. It is about unconditional acceptance and respect. This, too, is a vital nuance contained in Jesus' claim. Unconditional positive regard enables us to not only accept - and even celebrate - how our neighbors are different from us, or even how we are different and unique from our neighbors, or even how we as individuals feel different from everyone else in the world - it enables us to do this around differences we perhaps do not understand, or differences some of us wanting to wield power over those we claim to love or our neighbors have traditionally selfishly attempted to use to our advantage....

Episode 12: Chapter 7 Nuances - Personal Responsibility

     Personal responsibility is clearly holding yourself accountable for your own choices and your own actions. Jesus' claim specifically calls on you to take personal responsibility for making the choice, with your free will, to turn his claim into reality in your life. Do you know what else this means? Jesus is claiming that you, and only you, have the power to do this in your life, in addition to claiming that when you do, you are doing all you need to do to be the best human being you can be, on an individual and on a humanity level. Recognize this power in your life, recognize that you possess the power to make change in the world....

Episode 13: Chapter 7 Nuances - Conclusion

     Langer and Rodin (1976) apply this concept and powerfully summarize all of the nuances: personhood, unconditional love, unconditional positive regard, and personal responsibility in their research with elderly in a nursing home. These individuals live in a virtually decision-free environment. In their experiment, those persons in the group who were seen in all these ways and given back responsibility for themselves, and were also given the responsibility of caring for a plant - thrived....

Episode 14: Chapter 8 Human Equality

     Here we come full circle. We once again address how ragged reciprocity has become around the edges today. We revisit Jesus claim' that love can fix it, that love is truly all we need to become our best selves, that love is truly all we need to achieve peaceful flourishing for humanity....

Episode 15: Chapter 9 The Final rEvolution

     Revolutions are messy - and fatal. Thought revolutions are less messy, not fatal - and much more effective. I call this the final rEvolution because, after all of my research, logic and critical thinking, I support Jesus' nearly 2000 year old claim that, as human thoughts and behaviors go - it is. Invoking The Love Rule as our new narrative in word and deed could be just - relief - enabling us to thrive individually and together in human community....

Episode 16: Chapter 10 Conclusion

     At the end of the day, as a pragmatic minimalist, I agree with Einstein (1919) regarding something bigger than ourselves, that the details are irrelevant, it is the thoughts that count. Yet, I am curious what you, as a psychotherapist, would make of encountering this person Jesus - knowing nothing of him prior. I imagine this person showing up - knowing only what he speaks. He agrees to a horse ride so we climb on horses to go for a ride along the river. He starts to talk while I listen....

Bibliography

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Mirror Experiential Therapy

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ISBN: 9798418883162

Episode 1: Introduction

DEDICATION

To all human beings striving to live their best lives - and being the change they desire.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

Thank you to all the pragmatic giants on whose shoulders I stand, who believe experience combined with imagination, logic and critical thinking provide our most trustworthy truths....

Episode 2: Chapter 1 The Love Rule

     Mirror Experiential Therapy, like Mirror Psychology (Love, 2022a), stands on a foundation of The Love Rule (Love, 2022b). In a brief summary, I wrote the book The Love Rule with the intent of it being the (old) new narrative we can tap into, not only for achieving peaceful flourishing on the humanity level, but also as the new narrative, from a pragmatic minimalist's perspective, for quickly and efficiently achieving secure attachments through brief psychotherapy blended with experiential therapy within our relationships with something bigger than ourselves, in relationship with ourselves, and in our love relationships, family relationships and community relationships....

Episode 3: Chapter 2 The Mirror

     I wrote the book Mirror Psychology to position The Love Rule within psychology, providing the theoretical framework and latest relevant bio-psycho-social-spiritual and neuroscience research that exists to support this concept. If you would like to review all of the theory and research underlying Mirror Psychotherapy blended with Mirror Experiential Therapy, then I recommend you read Mirror Psychology (Love, 2022a). This book, Mirror Experiential Therapy, provides the pragmatic application of Mirror Psychology's theory and research....

Episode 4: Chapter 3 Case Study

     My grandmother, who lived to be 99, passing 3 days before her 100th birthday, always said, "The proof is in the pudding." I never forgot this. Perhaps that is why I am a pragmatic minimalist. Solid theory is important, scientific research is important - but, in psychology, for me the results in application are what ultimately matters. Theory and research, after all, are only as good in therapy as the clients' lives they improve through application....

Episode 5: Chapter 4 Do, Feel, Then Perhaps, Talk

     As a profession, psychology justifies its existence through the claim that it eliminates distress and improves the quality of people's lives - and, yet, psychology, so far, mostly expects people to think and then talk about their problems in order to achieve those goals. Growing up as a cowgirl on a horse and cattle ranch, I learned the hard way that the old adage, "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink" - is true. The same is true of people. You cannot eliminate distress and improve quality of life for anyone who is not willing and able....

Episode 6: Chapter 5 Client Consult & Agreement

     You're still with me - so let's dig in. Of course, prior to performing psychotherapy with anyone, it is vital from an ethical and legal standpoint to make certain you and any potential client are a good fit. I recommend providing a free 30 minute consultation to each prospective client to listen to why they are seeking your help. This is also where it is important for you to look in your own mirror and be honest with yourself about cultural fit....

Episode 7: Chapter 6 Pre-Therapy Assessment

     Your new client has told you why they are seeking your help, but it is also important to complete a brief pre-therapy assessment for at least three reasons: 1) as long as you use evidence-based assessment tools, you are establishing the first step towards a gold standard research foundation for the psychotherapy you perform with your client, which helps not only your psychotherapist colleagues constantly improve, but establishes client improvement, which is what ultimately matters; 2) pre-therapy assessment may deepen your understanding of the client's baseline situation, possibly uncovering more than the client already shared, which helps you do your job more effectively; and 3) the tools recommended for use in Mirror Experiential Therapy are actually designed to provide you with an inventory of the existing bio-psycho-social-spiritual resource capital clients already have in their lives that they can tap into and that you can build upon....

Episode 8: Chapter 7 Mirror Experiential Therapy: Awe

     The most important take-away from the pre-therapy assessment is the inventory of existing resource capital clients already have in their lives to tap into in the different areas addressed in Mirror Experiential Therapy. This inventory literally provides you with a roadmap of what your client has available and what you need to build upon. This will determine what you will be doing experientially with each client....

Episode 9: Chapter 8 Mirror Experiential Therapy: Self

     Consider the four-wheeling canoeing journey we went on in our narrative scenario in the last chapter. Not only is this journey filled to the brim with potential awe moments, it is also busting out with opportunities to engage in healthy grateful love of self. I shared the philosophy in The Love Rule (Love, 2022b) and the theory and research in Mirror Psychology (Love, 2022a) as to why loving yourself is vital - before you can authentically love anyone else. Achieving a secure attachment with self as a resource is the second step of our mission....

Episode 10: Chapter 9 Mirror Experiential Therapy: We

     We have arrived at the place where you are likely to find your client is most challenged. After all, except for mental disorders caused by genetics or biology or physical injury (which you ought to be working collaboratively with a bio-psycho- social-spiritual team of experts to address), problematic relationships with other human beings are the source of the remaining mental challenges. After achieving a higher power secure attachment resource, and achieving a secure attachment with self resource, the third, and final step of our mission is to achieve secure attachments with others....

Episode 11: Chapter 10 Post-Therapy Assessment

     Because we are scientists as well as psychologists - it is important to have your client complete post-therapy assessments covering the same ground they covered in their pre-therapy assessments to complete the circle. Remember they agreed to complete both pre- and post-therapy assessments in the initial client agreement they signed. Hopefully, they also agreed to filming - make sure they receive a copy. I would also add a professional competence assessment (Taylor, 2015) and a therapeutic alliance assessment (Cahill et al., 2012) in the post-therapy assessment to clarify what you are doing well as a psychotherapist and where you could improve....

References - Assessment Tools

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ISBN: 9798418861917

Episode 1: Introduction

Episode 1: Introduction

DEDICATION
This is dedicated to all human beings on planet earth - and beyond - if there are any....

Episode 2: Chapter 1 What If...

"Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets." ~Jesus Christ
(The Holy Bible, King James Version, Matthew 22:37-40).
     What if it is true? What if this is it? What if being the best person we can be comes down to this? Whether you believe Jesus Christ is God incarnate, or a prophet, or a wise man, or even just another person like you and me - being a pragmatic minimalist, I decided that this claim that has stood the test of time - that all humans need to flourish is to abide by these two commandments - was worthy of investigation, and worthy of becoming my life's work in an effort to make a difference in the world....

Episode 3: Chapter 2 Universal... Part 1

Episode 3: Chapter 2 Universal... Part 2

Episode 3: Chapter 2 Universal... Part 3

 What could be considered versions of this claim are universal across cultures:
• Common Sense throughout time: “Treat people the way you’d like to be
treated.”
• Hinduism: 3200 BC, from the Hitopadesa: “One should always treat
others as they themselves wish to be treated.”
• Judaism: 1300 BC, from the Old Testament, Leviticus 19:18: “Thou shalt
love thy neighbor as thyself.”
• Zoroastrianism: 600 BC, from the Shastna-shayast 13:29: “Whatever is
disagreeable to yourself, do not do unto others.”
• Buddhism: 560 BC from the Udanavarga 5:18: “Hurt not others with that
which pains yourself.”
• Confucianism: 557 BC, from the Analects 15:23: “What you do not want
done to yourself, do not do to others.”
• Christianity: 30 AD, from the Bible - King James Version, Matthew
22:39, Jesus said: “Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.” And going even further, in John 13:33 Jesus said: “A new commandment I give unto you, that ye love one another as I have loved you.”
• Islam: 632 AD, from the hadith Kitab al-Kafi, vol. 2, p. 146 - “As you would have people do to you, do to them; and what you dislike to be done to you, don’t do to them." 
     This merely brings us closer to what I have come to term the social imperative....

Episode 4: Chapter 3 ...Yet Unique

While it could be argued that cultures around the world universally make a somewhat similar statement regarding reciprocity, they don't goes as far as stating love and they don't make the claim that, in essence, love is all that human beings need to flourish as Jesus' claim does. In fact, of the reciprocity edicts I have found, only Judaism in 1300 BC in Leviticus 19:18 in the Old Testament, and Jesus quoted in 30 AD in Matthew 22:39 in the New Testament specifically state love. Yes, love requires a whole different level than treat or do....

Episode 5: Chapter 4 Three Kinds of Love

When you unpack Jesus' claim, you find three steps that include three types of love:
1) Love something bigger than yourself with all of you,
2) Love yourself,
3) Love your neighbor as you love yourself....

Episode 6: Chapter 5 Awe

How can we invoke awe? It would make sense to say that the more moments of awe we experience, the more love for awe we experience. Typing the word r-e-a-l-i-t-y contains seven moments of my reality. Reality only exists in the current moment. A previous moment has past. A future moment has not yet occurred. Just recognizing this fact allows you the space to experience awe....

Episode 7: Chapter 6 Self

How can we invoke humble, healthy self love? Make sure self is on your grateful list to start! Love and fear cannot exist in the same space at the same time - so choose love. Appreciation and fear, or disgust or guilt or shame, cannot exist in the same space at the same time - so choose appreciation. If you don't believe me, try it. I only want to put in this pragmatic, minimalist book what every human being can experience for themself. Try calling up love and fear in the same moment. Won't happen! Try being grateful and disgusted in the same moment. Nope!....

Episode 8: Chapter 7 We

How can we invoke love for our neighbor? More specifically, how can we invoke love for our neighbor that reaches both the level of our all-encompassing love in moments of awe and the resulting mirrored love for our self? Further, how can we invoke love for not just our favorite neighbor, not just our neighbor who is like us, not just our neighbor who it may profit us to love, but as Jesus clarifies for his claim in Matthew 25:40 "these the least of my brethren?" How can we invoke love for those of us who only have love to give in return?....

Episode 9: Chapter 8 Nuances - Part 1

Episode 9: Chapter 8 Nuances - Part 2

After taking all of the love steps in Jesus' claim, it is important to recognize the nuances contained within these statements as well. These nuances are vital to fully achieving our goal of peaceful flourishing for humanity. From a pragmatic minimalist perspective, I am going to highlight five nuances: personhood, unconditional love, unconditional positive regard, personal responsibility, and human equality. These five conditions are built into Jesus' claim, along with the three steps and types of love. In fact, personhood, unconditional love, unconditional positive regard, and personal responsibility are actually wrapped into human equality....

Episode 10: Chapter 9 Human Equality

Here we come full circle. We are back to addressing how ragged reciprocity has become around the edges today. We are back to Jesus claim' that love can fix it, that love is all we need to become our best selves, that love is all we need to achieve peaceful flourishing for humanity....

Episode 11: Chapter 10 The Final rEvolution

 I intend The Love Rule to be our new narrative that will enable us to thrive individually and collectively. Yes, it is actually extremely old - and versions of it are universal - but I see that as strengths. A pragmatic minimalists' dream! What hasn't happened, what is new, is actually translating Jesus' statement into the tapestry of our lives in the here and now - actually evoking a new, detailed narrative for the world as we want it to be, so we can make it so....

References by Chapter

Bibliography

Cerys Love PsyD presents 
Mirror Psychology

Copyright © 2022 Mirari Press.™ All rights reserved. Mirari Press.™ The Love Rule.™ Mirror Psychology.™ Mirror Psychotherapy.™ Mirror Experiential Therapy.™ Mirror Experiential Outreach.™ Mirror Social Psychology.™ Written and read as Cerys Love PsyD™ by Sherese Chrétien PsyD, CPPC, CPSP for Eliyora Entertainment LLC, a division of Paradunai LLC. Ever Entertainment.® All copyrights, trademarks & images property of Paradunai LLC. All personas and concepts created by Sherese Chrétien PsyD, CPSP, CPPC.
ISBN: 9798418883513

Episode 1: Introduction

DEDICATION
To all psychologists striving towards human flourishing.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
Gratitude to all of the scientists trying to decipher human beings
and the world we live in....

Episode 2: Chapter 1 The Love Rule

Mirror Psychology stands on a foundation of The Love Rule (Love, 2022c). In a brief summary, I wrote the book The Love Rule with the intent of it being the (old) new narrative we can tap into, not only for achieving peaceful flourishing on the humanity level, but also as the new narrative, from a pragmatic minimalist's perspective, for quickly and efficiently achieving secure attachments through brief psychotherapy blended with experiential therapy within our relationships with something bigger than ourselves, in relationship with ourselves, and in our love relationships, family relationships and community relationships....

Episode 3: Chapter 2 The Mirror

I am writing Mirror Psychology to position The Love Rule within psychology, providing the theoretical framework and latest relevant bio-psycho-social-spiritual research that exists to support this concept.
     
While mirror as a concept has been used in various ways in psychology in the past, the Mirror in Mirror Psychology becomes an important metaphor not only for the personal responsibility that is continually needed to succeed (looking in the mirror is a way of holding yourself accountable for your choices and actions and being honest with yourself), but, as depicted in The Love Rule (Love, 2022c), it is a reminder of why Jesus can make the claim that he does which the latest research confirms - that love is all we need to be the best we can be as individuals and as humanity....

Episode 4: Chapter 3 Foundations - Part 1

Episode 4: Chapter 3 Foundations - Part 2

Episode 4: Chapter 3 Foundations - Part 3

Episode 4: Chapter 3 Foundations - Part 4

Episode 4: Chapter 3 Foundations - Part 5

Episode 4: Chapter 3 Foundations - Part 6

Standing on the foundation of Jesus' claim, I am unapologetically reclaiming and reconnecting the spiritual aspect of ourselves to the bio-psycho-social aspects of ourselves in Mirror Psychology. Some psychologists will say, "of course," and some will still disagree, continuing to maintain that spirituality is the antithesis of science. It used to be that psychology was also considered the antithesis of science....

Episode 5: Chapter 4 Awe - Part 1

Episode 5: Chapter 4 Awe - Part 2

Human beings' experience of awe is universal. The latest positive psychology research into awe finds that all human beings experience moments of awe similarly, regardless of our culture or where we live in the world (Bonner & Friedman, 2011; Keltner & Haidt, 2003; Zhang & Keltner, 2016). Explorations into awe find not only positive effects on self-concept but on sociality (Keltner & Haidt, 1999; Schurtz et al., 2000; Shiota et al., 2007). Pawar (2017) goes so far as to maintain that happiness lies with the loss of self. Piff et al. (2015) finds that awe not only creates the small (humble, grateful) self, but also enhances pro-social behavior....

Episode 6: Chapter 5 Self - Part 1

Episode 6: Chapter 5 Self - Part 2

We carry forward from our experience of loving something bigger than ourselves - our experience of awe - the reward of humble gratefulness as well as the positive affect that leads to subjective well-being, happiness, and success (Baumeister et al., 2003; Khatoon, 2015; Van Cappellen et al., 2016). It is here that we step further into positive psychology and the value of positive emotions in being our best selves (Csikszentmihalyi, 2009; Fredrickson, 2003; 2009; Seligman, 2006). I maintain that Jesus' claim intentionally states to love something bigger than ourselves first because in doing this we find the mirror for how to love our self - with humble gratefulness, with recognition of our unique sense of purpose, and with a fresh, tingling, renewed sense of belonging. Supporting this, Lin (2014) finds that a higher order gratitude uniquely predicts subjective well- being....

Episode 7: Chapter 6 We

The final step and type of love in Jesus' claim is to love your neighbor. This step comes after loving yourself because you first must know how to love yourself with the humbling all-encompassing love reflected in the first step in moments of awe before you can love your neighbor as you love yourself. How you love yourself provides the mirror for how to love your neighbor - and this, as with the rest of Jesus' succinct claim, is an important distinction. The kindness Petersen and Seligman (2004) found to be universal is relatively easy to achieve. This kindness is contained in the empathy, cooperation and reciprocity required to survive as human beings - and in the universal versions of Jesus' claim (Henrich & Muthukrishna, 2021; Perc et al., 2017; VanCleave, 2016). But to love your neighbor as you love yourself elevates your responsibility to a whole different level, a much higher plane....

Episode 8: Chapter 7 Nuances

In striving to do better, beyond achieving the three steps and types of love, we must step back into the normative realm of logic and critical thinking to recognize the nuances, or underlying assumptions, also contained in Jesus' claim: personhood, unconditional love, unconditional positive regard, personal responsibility, and human equality. The first four - personhood, unconditional love, unconditional positive regard, and personal responsibility - can actually be wrapped into human equality....

Episode 8: Chapter 7 Nuances - Personhood - Part 1

Episode 8: Chapter 7 Nuances - Personhood - Part 2

Episode 8: Chapter 7 Nuances - Personhood - Part 3

Episode 8: Chapter 7 Nuances - Personhood - Part 4

Episode 8: Chapter 7 Nuances - Personhood - Part 5

Episode 8: Chapter 7 Nuances - Personhood - Part 6

Personhood is the recognition that each human being, regardless of stage, age, or any other differentiating factor, is always worthy of the dignity of full personhood within the human community. In logical terms, it seems odd that this statement would even need to be made. Of course a person is a person. Imagine the world we would live in if humanity accepted that as unequivocally true, and if human beings saw that humanity is not what it could be until each person had reached their full potential....

Episode 8: Chapter 7 Nuances - Unconditional Love - Part 1

Episode 8: Chapter 7 Nuances - Unconditional Love - Part 2

Unconditional Love or love without conditions attached to it - is cocooned within Jesus' stipulation that we love all of our neighbors, and that we love ourselves, with the kind of love mirrored within the all-encompassing love we experience surrounding us in moments of awe, this love that engulfs us....

Episode 8: Chapter 7 Nuances - Unconditional Positive Regard

Unconditional Positive Regard is related to unconditional love but it addresses and even celebrates our differences. It is about unconditional acceptance and respect. This, too, is a vital nuance contained in Jesus' claim. Unconditional positive regard enables us to not only accept - and even celebrate - how our neighbors are different from us, or even how we are different and unique from our neighbors, or even how we as individuals feel different from everyone else in the world - it enables us to do this around differences we perhaps do not understand, or differences some of us wanting to wield power over those we claim to love or our neighbors have traditionally selfishly attempted to use to our advantage....

Episode 8: Chapter 7 Nuances - Personal Responsibility - Part 1

Episode 8: Chapter 7 Nuances - Personal Responsibility - Part 2

Personal responsibility is clearly holding yourself accountable for your own choices and your own actions. Jesus' claim specifically calls on you to take personal responsibility for making the choice, with your free will, to turn his claim into reality in your life. Do you know what else this means? Jesus is claiming that you, and only you, have the power to do this in your life, in addition to claiming that when you do, you are doing all you need to do to be the best human being you can be, on an individual and on a humanity level. Recognize this power in your life, recognize that you possess the power to make change in the world...

Episode 8: Chapter 7 Nuances - Conclusion

Langer and Rodin (1976) apply this concept and powerfully summarize all of the nuances: personhood, unconditional love, unconditional positive regard, and personal responsibility in their research with elderly in a nursing home. These individuals live in a virtually decision-free environment. In their experiment, those persons in the group who were seen in all these ways and given back responsibility for themselves, and were also given the responsibility of caring for a plant - thrived....

Episode 9: Chapter 8 Human Equality - Part 1

Episode 9: Chapter 8 Human Equality - Part 2

Episode 9: Chapter 8 Human Equality - Part 3

Episode 9: Chapter 8 Human Equality - Part 4

Episode 9: Chapter 8 Human Equality - Part 5

Episode 9: Chapter 8 Human Equality - Part 6

Here we come full circle. We once again address how ragged reciprocity has become around the edges today. We revisit Jesus claim' that love can fix it, that love is truly all we need to become our best selves, that love is truly all we need to achieve peaceful flourishing for humanity....

Episode 10: Chapter 9 The Final rEvolution - Part 1

Episode 10: Chapter 9 The Final rEvolution - Part 2

Episode 10: Chapter 9 The Final rEvolution - Part 3

Episode 10: Chapter 9 The Final rEvolution - Part 4

Revolutions are messy - and fatal. Thought revolutions are less messy, not fatal - and much more effective. I call this the final rEvolution because, after all of my research, logic and critical thinking, I support Jesus' nearly 2000 year old claim that, as human thoughts and behaviors go - it is. Invoking The Love Rule as our new narrative in word and deed could be just - relief - enabling us to thrive individually and together in human community....

Episode 11: Chapter 10 Conclusion - Part 1

Episode 11: Chapter 10 Conclusion - Part 2

Episode 11: Chapter 10 Conclusion - Part 3

At the end of the day, as a pragmatic minimalist, I agree with Einstein (1919) regarding something bigger than ourselves, that the details are irrelevant, it is the thoughts that count. Yet, I am curious what you, as a psychotherapist, would make of encountering this person Jesus - knowing nothing of him prior. I imagine this person showing up - knowing only what he speaks. He agrees to a horse ride so we climb on horses to go for a ride along the river. He starts to talk while I listen....

Bibliography

Cerys Love PsyD presents
Mirror Experiential Therapy

Copyright © 2022 Mirari Press.™ All rights reserved. Mirari Press.™ The Love Rule.™ Mirror Psychology.™ Mirror Psychotherapy.™ Mirror Experiential Therapy.™ Mirror Experiential Outreach.™ Mirror Social Psychology.™ Written and read as Cerys Love PsyD™ by Sherese Chrétien PsyD, CPPC, CPSP for Eliyora Entertainment LLC, a division of Paradunai LLC. Ever Entertainment.® All copyrights, trademarks & images property of Paradunai LLC. All personas and concepts created by Sherese Chrétien PsyD, CPSP, CPPC.
ISBN: 9798418883162

Episode 1: Introduction

DEDICATION

To all human beings striving to live their best lives - and being the change they desire.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

Thank you to all the pragmatic giants on whose shoulders I stand, who believe experience combined with imagination, logic and critical thinking provide our most trustworthy truths....

Episode 2: Chapter 1 - The Love Rule - Part 1

Episode 2: Chapter 1 - The Love Rule - Part 2

Mirror Experiential Therapy, like Mirror Psychology (Love, 2022a), stands on a foundation of The Love Rule (Love, 2022b). In a brief summary, I wrote the book The Love Rule with the intent of it being the (old) new narrative we can tap into, not only for achieving peaceful flourishing on the humanity level, but also as the new narrative, from a pragmatic minimalist's perspective, for quickly and efficiently achieving secure attachments through brief psychotherapy blended with experiential therapy within our relationships with something bigger than ourselves, in relationship with ourselves, and in our love relationships, family relationships and community relationships....

Episode 3: Chapter 2 The Mirror

I wrote the book Mirror Psychology to position The Love Rule within psychology, providing the theoretical framework and latest relevant bio-psycho-social-spiritual and neuroscience research that exists to support this concept. If you would like to review all of the theory and research underlying Mirror Psychotherapy blended with Mirror Experiential Therapy, then I recommend you read Mirror Psychology (Love, 2022a). This book, Mirror Experiential Therapy, provides the pragmatic application of Mirror Psychology's theory and research....

Episode 4: Chapter 3 - Case Study - Part 1

Episode 4: Chapter 3 - Case Study - Part 2

Episode 4: Chapter 3 - Case Study - Part 3

My grandmother, who lived to be 99, passing 3 days before her 100th birthday, always said, "The proof is in the pudding." I never forgot this. Perhaps that is why I am a pragmatic minimalist. Solid theory is important, scientific research is important - but, in psychology, for me the results in application are what ultimately matters. Theory and research, after all, are only as good in therapy as the clients' lives they improve through application....

Episode 5: Chapter 4 Do, Feel, Then Perhaps, Talk - Part 1

Episode 5: Chapter 4 Do, Feel, Then Perhaps, Talk - Part 2

Episode 5: Chapter 4 Do, Feel, Then Perhaps, Talk - Part 3

As a profession, psychology justifies its existence through the claim that it eliminates distress and improves the quality of people's lives - and, yet, psychology, so far, mostly expects people to think and then talk about their problems in order to achieve those goals. Growing up as a cowgirl on a horse and cattle ranch, I learned the hard way that the old adage, "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink" - is true. The same is true of people. You cannot eliminate distress and improve quality of life for anyone who is not willing and able....

Episode 6: Chapter 5 Client Consult & Agreement

You're still with me - so let's dig in. Of course, prior to performing psychotherapy with anyone, it is vital from an ethical and legal standpoint to make certain you and any potential client are a good fit. I recommend providing a free 30 minute consultation to each prospective client to listen to why they are seeking your help. This is also where it is important for you to look in your own mirror and be honest with yourself about cultural fit....

Episode 7: Chapter 6 Pre-Therapy Assessment - Part 1

Episode 7: Chapter 6 Pre-Therapy Assessment - Part 2

Your new client has told you why they are seeking your help, but it is also important to complete a brief pre-therapy assessment for at least three reasons: 1) as long as you use evidence-based assessment tools, you are establishing the first step towards a gold standard research foundation for the psychotherapy you perform with your client, which helps not only your psychotherapist colleagues constantly improve, but establishes client improvement, which is what ultimately matters; 2) pre-therapy assessment may deepen your understanding of the client's baseline situation, possibly uncovering more than the client already shared, which helps you do your job more effectively; and 3) the tools recommended for use in Mirror Experiential Therapy are actually designed to provide you with an inventory of the existing bio-psycho-social-spiritual resource capital clients already have in their lives that they can tap into and that you can build upon....

Episode 8: Chapter 7 Mirror Experiential Therapy: Awe - Part 1

Episode 8: Chapter 7 Mirror Experiential Therapy: Awe - Part 2

The most important take-away from the pre-therapy assessment is the inventory of existing resource capital clients already have in their lives to tap into in the different areas addressed in Mirror Experiential Therapy. This inventory literally provides you with a roadmap of what your client has available and what you need to build upon. This will determine what you will be doing experientially with each client....

Episode 9: Chapter 8 Mirror Experiential Therapy: Self

Consider the four-wheeling canoeing journey we went on in our narrative scenario in the last chapter. Not only is this journey filled to the brim with potential awe moments, it is also busting out with opportunities to engage in healthy grateful love of self. I shared the philosophy in The Love Rule (Love, 2022b) and the theory and research in Mirror Psychology (Love, 2022a) as to why loving yourself is vital - before you can authentically love anyone else. Achieving a secure attachment with self as a resource is the second step of our mission....

Episode 10: Chapter 9 Mirror Experiential Therapy: We - Part 1

Episode 10: Chapter 9 Mirror Experiential Therapy: We - Part 2

Episode 10: Chapter 9 Mirror Experiential Therapy: We - Part 3

Episode 10: Chapter 9 Mirror Experiential Therapy: We - Part 4

We have arrived at the place where you are likely to find your client is most challenged. After all, except for mental disorders caused by genetics or biology or physical injury (which you ought to be working collaboratively with a bio-psycho- social-spiritual team of experts to address), problematic relationships with other human beings are the source of the remaining mental challenges. After achieving a higher power secure attachment resource, and achieving a secure attachment with self resource, the third, and final step of our mission is to achieve secure attachments with others....

Episode 11: Chapter 10 Post-Therapy Assessment

Because we are scientists as well as psychologists - it is important to have your client complete post-therapy assessments covering the same ground they covered in their pre-therapy assessments to complete the circle. Remember they agreed to complete both pre- and post-therapy assessments in the initial client agreement they signed. Hopefully, they also agreed to filming - make sure they receive a copy. I would also add a professional competence assessment (Taylor, 2015) and a therapeutic alliance assessment (Cahill et al., 2012) in the post-therapy assessment to clarify what you are doing well as a psychotherapist and where you could improve....

References - Assessment Tools

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